I’m old and married. You should listen to me.

I was looking at old pictures and realized there are some friends that kind of faded into the abyss. A specific handful of friends that were quite lovely to have in my life and at one point or another allowed me to lean on them severely during an ugly break up are now strangers and/or “Facebook” only friends (po-tay-toe, po-tah-toe). It used to sting and on some occasion still does sting, thinking back on the friendships especially since there was not a falling out directly between US. They chose his “side”. One may argue that there were no clear cut “sides” to choose from but knowing what THEY know and continuing to even be cordial towards him felt similar to socking me in the face.

Some even grew CLOSER to him after wards. So…I did the 2nd worst thing after causing a scene and making a ruckus. I said and did NOTHING (Hi, Passive-Aggressive). Over time we went from fun crazy nights and great conversations to “hello, how have you been” and “happy birthday” greetings. Sad.

The part that ticks me off/embarrasses me/makes me want to crawl under a rock is knowing how much these relationships meant to me but seeing now that the support given was most likely to get gossip out of the situation to relay to other mutual friends. In addition, since their significant others are friends with Satan – err…my ex… they followed suit and LET ME fall into the abyss as well. (sigh)

And my lesson here is…

HAVE YOUR OWN DAMN GROUP OF FRIENDS.